Hospitality is the art of offering a “generous and cordial reception of guests” according to Webster’s dictionary. Another definition of hospitality, according to Webster’s, is “offering a pleasant or sustaining environment”. Hospitable can also allude to being open and receptive.
Making our homes a place of generosity, cordial reception is a wonderful goal. Perhaps the best way to start this is to do so with our closest family members – our spouses and our children.
I feel my husband is worthy of my respect. Do you respect your husband? Do you respect the way he handles the children or are you always stepping in? Do you find fault with your husband frequently?
Can you start by making your home a place of hospitality for your husband? Can you be cordial and generous with him? How could you make your home a place of greater comfort for him?
Perhaps he needs some downtime when he walks in the door instead of being jumped on by children. What could you do to facilitate that?
Are you hospitable to your children? Are most of your words to them commands or demands or nagging or yelling?
Children under the age of 7 learn by imitation; they learn how to treat other people by watching how you treat your husband, how he treats you, and how you treat them.
That being said, treating a child kindly is not enough to make them always treat you back respectfully. They are learning! Remember to have appropriate expectations for their ages and to respect the fact that they are indeed learning.
Is your home place of comfort? Are there things of beauty, things that bring joy into your eyes in your home? These do not have to be expensive things; an old table worn by good meals, a single flower in a small vase are all wonderful. What do you have of beauty?
Is your home a warm and nourishing place where time slows down?
Finally, what are you doing to be hospitable to yourself? Are you expecting too much of yourself? What is nourishing you these days? Crafting, writing, having time to sit down and read all can be nourishing. Do you have wonderful, close friends to love and share with?