Most of what I write is geared toward mothers, but I am becoming aware of a number of fathers who also come to this space! Hello to all the fathers out there! I appreciate you being here!
At the end of last night’s show (see www.thewaldorfconnection.com), a Dad called in asking how to make use of the limited weekday time with the under-7 child.
Families do things all different ways; I have seen families push back bedtimes so the children can play with Dad, have a snack with Dad, etc before bed. Some children do wonderfully with this and some children go waaaaay off the deep end with this end and the night ends with tears and do better with Dad parenting them to sleep – walking a small child around, singing to their child, back rubs, massages, telling wonderful stories.
I have harped on this time and time again: you are creating your family culture together. Parenting is in the doing! Mothers, give up control and parent together. You love this man enough to marry him, to have children with him, he is the parent as well! Mothers will wail to me, “But he doesn’t do it the way I do it!” Uh, yes, isn’t that the point? There is a place for mothering and fathering and we are thrilled to have both!
Children need to have their fathers; fathers bring so many wonderful things to the table for children. I will write more about this in the future, but in the meantime, here are some back posts to read and ponder:
Dads might be interested in this: http://theparentingpassageway.com/2009/06/30/rite-of-passage-parenting-four-essential-experiences-to-equip-your-kids-for-life-heading-up-to-the-nine-year-change-and-beyond/
Just to keep you busy!