We focused a lot on joy in January, and February is now the month to really look at how simple life can be; how confidence can grow when we intuit onto the right path. Mothers in my local area have often asked me how they can gain confidence with their parenting decisions, with the decision to homeschool, with the business of raising a family and creating a family culture. I think this goes back to making life simple: what do you feel in your heart?
I live in a large metropolitan area. When I go to the giant Farmer’s Market, it really strikes me to look around at just the large number of people of all different races, backgrounds, ethnicities in one area. They were not all raised the same way. Their culture, perhaps their religion, perhaps their education, all influenced how they became who they are. Their experiences, the people they have loved and the people who have loved them, have all contributed to who they are and how they see things. We all have similarities, but we all look at things differently. And for some reason, that brings me comfort. The world is a big place, there are many ways of doing things, and certainly I cannot err if I approach things gently and with love and with patience. I can be easy with myself, and know that while there may be one path that works well for me, it is not the same for all families and there are many wonderful people in the world raised in different ways…Again, if I am gentle and kind and patient, I am doing the best for my family.
Mothers ask me: well, but how do I find the right path for my family? I am just researching myself to death!
I have a suggestion for you! For February, look at yourself. We talk a lot about biography in Waldorf, but I also think it is really relevant in parenting as well. Who are you? What do you believe? Why do you believe that? How have your experiences influenced what you believe? Your values? The truth is, the way to gain confidence in parenting is to really know yourself. Dig deep. Know what irritates you, what calms you, what and who you love, what matters and what doesn’t. Know what is essential for you and your family and what is not. There are only so many hours in the day, and to me, I cannot waste these short hours and days on non-essential things.
Once you decide how your biography plays into things, the essential and non-essential things in your life, then your confidence will grow. You will also be able to pull one thing out at a time and work on changing that one thing for forty days. Once you decide what is essential and non-essential, you will handle criticism with confidence. You will be able to carry on!
Simple days in February!