I have to confess, I am not a morning person. In college, I was pretty rhythmical and got up at 6 AM almost every day in order to go workout, but I also didn’t have to talk! I am working hard to go to bed and get up and be pleasant, LOL. (Again, I don’t mind being up, it is more the being up and talking :)) Are you a morning person? Are you up before your children?
In order to have any sort of a chance to be a morning person, you have to actually go to bed at a decent time. And to go to bed at a decent time, you have to get off your computer, stop your reading or knitting, and go to bed! Many mothers I know seem to have no problems setting limits on the TV, but have difficulty turning off the computer or putting down their crafting. What are your own limits for your computer time??
One thing that helps many mothers is to have a nighttime routine. This may include making sure the kitchen is cleaned up, having things ready for homeschool the next day, having clothes laid out for family members, taking a bath or shower if need be. The morning sure goes so much easier when you prepare the night before!
Many mothers ask how they can get up early and ahead of their family if they are co-sleeping; in other words, the minute they put their feet on the floor their child wakes up. That is frustrating and a challenge! One thing I think about it is what if you used this early time to sit on a chair in your room with a small booklight and use this early time, even if it is only ten minutes, to read something that is uplifting to you? This season of your children being small and co-sleeping will not last forever! Your child is a precious gift, and I think when we can just approach this with a “ho-hum” attitude that “Mommy is awake and doing her special work” rather than “I can’t believe this child is up again! I never get any time to myself!” things go so, so much better. Think positively on the fact that your child may sleep or rest and give you ten minutes to start this special work on preparing yourself to be a good Mommy for the day! I think too, if you can be persistent over time, your child will see you are not up doing anything “fun” and may at least learn to rest through this time. Too often we give up after only a few days of trying!
Some mothers say they cannot get up early because their children are already up so early. This too, is a season that will not last forever. How about trying to get up even 15 minutes ahead of your children? How about using a special night light that tells children when they can be “up” and that they must rest in their beds until that light is on……Here is an example of one my husband’s friend created: http://www.goodnitelite.com/index.php?page=product He gave us one to try yesterday and we tried it last night. Our girls really liked it, because they knew when it was time to get up even though it was dark outside and my oldest, who is an early riser, didn’t seem to feel so preoccupied with checking the time every few minutes to see if it was time to get up.
Some mothers say they don’t want to go to bed because this is their time with their husband. I understand that; I love my time with my husband as well! However, one trend I notice is that husbands and wives are on their separate computers at night for several hours and then come together for talking and intimacy. How about trying to shorten your computer, reading, crafting, or TV time so you can be together or plan to spend time together first? Isn’t your relationship with your spouse much more important than your reading time?
Some couples also have designated nights to work on things on the computer or in reading material, and designated “nights off” where they just come together! How wonderful!
Going to bed and being refreshed benefits you and your whole family!
Happy meditating on this important subject,