Why is it that FUN is the first thing that often seems to run out the door when trying to “get it all done”? I alluded to this in my last post about trying to put people before things, think about this time with small children as a season so as to not get so upset that every single thing is not being done from scratch right at this point. It takes time to build traditions in the family, your children will be watching you for many years as you build up the time you spend crafting, sewing, knitting, as they grow! They will not remember that when they were two years old you did not knit all their winter sweaters by hand! I promise!
So where is the FUN??
I think FUN should be as much as a priority as crafting, sewing, cooking and cleaning. And judging from the mothers I speak with, this is an area that is highly challenging for many of them and they find this difficult to develop. “I just am not silly. I can’t be silly.” “It is hard for me to relax and spend time with my children without seeing everything else I should be doing.” “My husband is the one that really can get down on the floor and have fun with them!”
Okay, yes, but think back to some skill you had to learn – knitting, sewing, parenting in general! etc. Did you just throw up your hands and say, “I can’t knit! I just am not a knitter!” My point is that these things take time to develop.
Here is my Advent Adventure for you. And here is the best part: you only need ten minutes a day! Set a timer if you have to, and set aside five minutes a day to just roll around on the floor with your kids climbing all over you. Maybe the dog will join in! Call it Monster or whatever you want to call it and just hug each other and wrestle and have fun! If that doesn’t appeal to you, how about a five minute game of hide and go seek or tag? Or five minutes of horsie rides?
For your second five minutes, try to cultivate a playful and FUN attitude whilst you are doing some of that work. Make pancakes as part of a restaurant, do laundry as part of a pretend dry cleaners, use a silly voice, sing a silly song whilst you are doing something. Too often we show our children that work is not fun; show them that anything can be fun if one has the right attitude!
Be in Joy this holiday season!