Specifically Regarding Anger:
“When Anger Hurts Your Kids” by Mckay, Fanning, Paleg and Landis
“love and anger the parental dilemma” by Nancy Samalin with Catherine Whitney
Under Age 9:
- WALDORF: “You Are Your Child’s First Teacher” by Rahima Baldwin Dancy
- WALDORF: “Beyond the Rainbow Bridge”
- WALDORF: “Heaven On Earth” by Sharifa Oppenheimer, although I cannot recommend the references to time-out. Those of you who read this blog know I oppose time-out. Many parents do love this book though!
- WALDORF: “You’re Not The Boss of Me! Understanding the Six/Seven Year Transformation” available through www.waldorfbooks.org
- WALDORF: Donna Simmons’ Audio Downloads on “The Changing Face Of Discipline” and also “Talking Pictorially and Living Actively with Your Young Child” – can be found here: http://www.christopherushomeschool.org/bookstore-for-waldorf-homeschooling/audio-downloads.html
- WALDORF: “The Challenge of The Will” by Margret Meyerkort and Rudi Lissau
- DEVELOPMENTAL: For understanding realistic expectations for each age, I still like The Gesell Institute books “Your One-Year-Old” “Your Two-Year-Old” etc. They are available at many libraries and are also easily picked up used.
- DEVELOPMENTAL/LOVING GUIDANCE: “Mothering Your Nursing Toddler” by Norma Bumgarner
- ATTACHMENT PARENTING: “Attached At The Heart” by Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker (one chapter of discipline)
- GENTLE DISCIPLINE: La Leche League’s “Adventures in Gentle Discipline” –this also has a part about time out as mentioned by parents, which I oppose. The voices of many mothers are throughout this book, so you will have to pick through what resonates with you. Particularly if you are also a Waldorf family, the “talk talk talk” of some of the families with their tiny children may not resonate with you! There is however, a good section as to what “gentle discipline” is and isn’t in the beginning of the book. A good place to start if you are new to gentle discipline and equate it in your head with children having no boundaries (which is NOT what it is!)
- ATTACHMENT PARENTING: “Connection Parenting” by Pam Leo
- GENTLE DISCIPLINE: “Easy To Love, Difficult To Discipline” by Becky Bailey
- GENTLE DISCIPLINE: “Playful Parenting” by Lawrence Cohen
- GENTLE DISCIPLINE: “Discipline Without Distress” by Judy Arnall – you can search through this blog for chapter summaries of this book, not all strategies in this book are compatible with a Waldorf approach but overall a helpful book
- And may I ever so humbly recommend this blog?:)
Over Age 9:
WALDORF: Specific to the Nine-Year-Old Change: Donna Simmons’s Audio Downloads on Third Grade and also “The Changing Face of Discipline for ages 9 and up”
WALDORF: Specific to the Nine-Year-Old Change: “Encountering the Self” by Hermann Koepke
GENERAL PARENTING: “Hold On to Your Kids” by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Mate
GENTLE DISCIPLINE: “Kids Are Worth It!” by Barbara Coloroso. Has some good examples of how to “hold the space” in it.
GENTLE DISCIPLINE: “Loving Your Child Is Not Enough: Positive Discipline That Works” by Nancy Samalin with Martha Moraghan Jablow
GENTLE DISCIPLINE: “Raising Your Spirited Child” and “Kids, Parents and Power Struggles” by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka (I put these here because the strategies essentially involve emotion coaching and I feel that is better for an older child).
Over Age 12:
WALDORF: Specific to the 12- Year -Old Change: Hermann Koepke’s “On the Threshold of Adolescence”
WALDORF: Also, several of Steiner’s works are now available for education and observation of the adolescent: http://www.waldorfbooks.com/edu/adolescence.htm
WALDORF: “Between Form and Freedom” by Betty Staley
GENTLE DISCIPLINE: “Kids Are Worth It!” by Barbara Coloroso
GENTLE DISCIPLINE: “Kids, Parents and Power Struggles” by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka and “Raising Your Spirited Child” by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
GENTLE DISCIPLINE: “Peaceful Parents, Peaceful Kids” by Naomi Drew
COMMUNCICATION: “NonViolent Communication” by Marshall Rosenberg (and to me, once your child hits 15 or so, why not attend a NVC Group together and practice?)
COMMUNICATION: “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk” and “Liberated Parents, Liberated Children: Your Guide To A Happier Family” by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Let me be clear, one can certainly read the gentle discipline books for the older children when one’s child is younger and gleam things from them, but some of the approaches are best saved for when your child is older!
And finally, some gentle books for the mother:
CHRISTIAN: “The Power of A Positive Mother” by Karol Ladd
GENERAL/BUDDHIST: “Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting” by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn
WALDORF/GENERAL: “Mitten Strings for God: Reflections For Mothers In A Hurry” by Katrina Kenison