Not too long ago, my husband took me aside and talked to me about my life. He essentially said there were several friendships and organizations he noted I was nurturing, but he could tell the effort I was putting forth was not being met equally from the other side. (Has anyone out there ever had that experience?) He explained to me that he would love to see my cultivate some friendships that were especially supportive to me and nourishing to me. He asked me, “Who in your circle of friends truly nourishes you when you spend time with them? Have you seen any of them lately?”
Well, I sat down and made a list and then I picked three ladies off my list whom I don’t get to see as much as I used to, and I picked up the phone and called them. We all agreed to meet for dinner at a local restaurant without our children for true night out to nurture ourselves as women and as friends.
What a delightful and illuminating evening! What wonderful, frank conversation we had as we discussed our lives and held council together. Three wonderful souls surrounded me that night, and I hold them as my “brain trust” – the women with whom I can speak with and garner support from.
How much time are you spending on friendships or organizations or on things that are just not nurturing your soul? Or, conversely, do you have any close friends whom you can really talk to? I think every woman really needs that.
My husband is my best friend, but he often reminds me men can be true problem solvers and not always as patient regarding the “venting” of life that another woman can provide. Other women can give us strength and wisdom as we travel this path.
I urge you to connect with your close friends and value your relationship,